#DoBetter2018

A very talented light worker named @sirm00re on Ig wrote this well written letter to the "bros , & sistas if it applies" about what they should as well as shouldn't be doing in this new year , 2018. It's worth more than just a summary so it's posted below of course. Before you get to it though,a few things he mentioned are taking care of ALL your kids , hygeine (no one wants a dirtbag) ,taking care of mental health , dating tips etc . I REALLY appreciate post like this because it is literally putting the phrase "each one , teach one" to work . It's speaking up for what is right , knowing better to do/teach better, and holding people accountable for things we sometimes struggle with or just plain & simple don't want to face. 

Furthermore, it inspired me to write something to the ladies.

Wanna hear it ? Here it go.

Ladies because I love you , I have to be the one to say we simply MUST do better. I know times have changed and it's "cool" to be a bunch of negative things but here's my list of things I think we need to work on overall .

• PAY ATTENTION TO YOU. Take care of yourself first.You can not pour from an empty glass. Seek therapy if necessary (I recommend everyone doing this). KEEP YOUR MENTAL HEALTH HEALTHY. Communicate your feelings whether good or bad. Stop harboring onto negativity. Surround yourself with positivity and reminders of how worthy you are. 

• BE THE PARENT YOU NEEDED. Some of us are too consumed with outside nonsense or even ourselves to pay proper attention to our budding children. Don't just be the mother that buys your kids nice things,or only post pictures. Be a hands on parent at all cost. Listen and pay attention to your children's needs and act on it.

• BEING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE. Listen , it's not cute. Never was , never will be . Saying "you're okay" when something is CLEARLY wrong is not okay. Your words are showing something completely different than your behavior . Say exactly how you feel , avoid the attitude. Stop shutting down emotionally. Find suitable ways to communicate what's going on instead of most likely acting out. It's not healthy for you (or others).

• BEING OBLIVIOUS. Sis , let's stop playing dumb . There's toooooo much information out there to just remain without knowledge. The same way we can find out info about a guy's ex , his blood type, who he lost his virginity too, if he's cheating or who he may/may not be cheating with ... we can occupy our time to research things that actually strengthen our minds. Keep up with current events, study your culture, read.FUEL YOUR MINDS.STOP BEING CLUELESS. 

• TREATING GOOD MEN HORRIBLY. I notice that good men are really out here getting treated like trash . THE DATING POOL SUCKS SO GIRL IF YOU HAVE A GOOD ONE, TREAT HIM RIGHT. DUH.  Thinking you can treat a guy like shxt just because you can or because you think he won't leave you or because you feel entitled is ridiculous. Be his peace. I'm not saying don't speak your mind or get ran over by him ; just stop being a super nag . Make sure he's good. Take him out, make sure he ate, get him gifts too . Rub his feet. BE NASTY FOR HIM it's not always about you. Stop nitpicking , and finding reasons NOT to like this man because 1)YOU'RE STILL WITH HIM  2)Yall be wanting "bad boys" that's going to treat you like how you treat the good guy you have , terribly. Vicious cycle. Most importantly support and appreciate him . If you just don't like him , leave him. Stop wasting people's time.

• HAVING EXCUSES. We LOOOVVEE to find excuses about why we can't do things. We will say things like we have no time, we're so tired ,we don't have money to do things we really want , and the list goes on. We waste loads of time , energy and money on frivolous things all the time. If we want something, it has to happen. We have to find a way to actually be productive and do whatever it takes to live our dreams or crush our goals. WE GOT THIS.

• BEING OVERLY DEPENDENT. It's 2018 we are more than capable of figuring out some things on our own. I won't say I never need or want help , I do . Some things you just simply don't need to call on others for though . This ties into the oblivious tab. Don't let what a man brings to the table in any way , ALL you have to eat.

• LETTING EVERY ONE HAVE THE VAG. I get it , it's the age of super feminism and "I can do what I want with my pussy" or " Pussy Power". I'm not telling you what to do with your body but EVERY ONE you come across does not need to experience your treasure. Keep your coochie to yourself sometimes. I know things happen , sometimes fast, but if you're just casually passing out pussy to whoever semi looks your way .... idk sis , something ain't right. Being nasty doesn't mean you're promiscuous but being promiscuous ((to ME)) is . Some of you don't even give yourself time to learn what ONE person like before you're on to the next.

• NOT SECURING THE BAG. Find multiple bags , Secure them all . The end.

Bonus .. 

STOP THINKING IT'S CUTE TO BE A BITCH , BORING , PETTY , CRAZY .ETC. SEEK HELP SIS. 

Remember.. I wrote this because we are queens.We have to present ourselves as such.We will do better this yr. No question.