Valentine's Day Gifts for HIM ...

Ladies (or men LOVE WINS ) Valentine season is here and I know you're probably thinking about what you're going to wear, where your guy may be taking you, or what gift you may be getting.

Thought about your gift to him yet? Lol, Don't look at the screen crazy.

You saw right sis.

Did you think about your gift to him?

Disclaimer:: To the people who feel as though this day doesn't matter ... I respectfully understand, but click off the post lol. To the people who feel the need to say,"This day isn't a big deal. You should treat your loved ones right every day". I agree BUT we should eat every day yet we make the genocide holiday, Thanksgiving, a big deal too. I'm single ;( but I'm not a negative nancy to the ones who do want to celebrate this. So don't rain on anyone's parade. Mkay?

I believe that although this holiday is geared towards women by default, we should show appreciation to the guys holding us down too. I thought it was actually normal to buy or do things for guys in our lives as well; turns out not too many women do so. I actually even get my five year old son something just so he knows he is also supposed to get treated nicely.

I asked a few men I know what they thought of Valentine's day. The majority said they didn't care for it, then further broke down that it's because they don't feel celebrated. I understand. Even on Father's Day, it's not really a big deal. Unfortunately everyone usually only makes a fuss about Mother's Day.

I just think that if you appreciate someone, show them all the time, as well as little holidays that may or may not matter to you.

Be the reason someone smiles.

Gift ideas for the special guy in your life:

A massage. They work hard, they deserve to unwind as well.

YOU can plan a nice little getaway for you two. Obviously, this probably takes more planning than a week or two but you gotta prepare for him like how you expect him to prep for you.

Sex. Learn something new maybe, and be reallllllly into it. I hear the horror stories. Some of you have sex as if it's a chore. Yikes.Own your sexuality and ENJOY it sis.
A wise man once said, "You can do it, put your back into it." lmao.

Something you know he could use for his craft, hobby or hustle (legal ones only please). Support goes a long way. If he makes music help pay for studio time. If he writes, a fresh journal. Engraved drumsticks are dope for drummers. Be creative.

Tickets to a concert, comedy show, game or class THEY would like.
It's not ALWAYS about you baby girl.

If your guy likes to travel or plans to start, you can get a sturdy and stylish weekend bag. On top of that, you could also add toiletries or things you think he may need on the trip inside.
(Passport holder, body necessities, beard oil, headphones, travel pillow etc)

Throat. Seriously. Do it like you mean it. :)

Pay for dinner or cook HIS favorite meal. Especially if he did the most and made other plans for you two.  I think it's a good gesture and he would probably be shocked.

Watch.Wallet. Cologne.Liquor. Records and or Record Player.

 

With the wallet, I would slide a few dollars inside maybe for a haircut, or even a couple gift cards to places he likes in the slots.

My personal favorite gift to make anyone, male, female or even pet is a "care package". You can decorate them to look however you want on the inside & add items your S.O would like. I like to put candy/snacks, liquor, book, cologne, things I've mentioned above, a sexy pic or pair of undies to wear for him later .... I think you catch the drift. Anything you think your person would like, throw it in. I think it's cool because they get loads of different items that show you pay attention to them. 

One of my closest friends is going to hate me for this but I think adding underwear or socks to the box is cool. I know its common but SHRUGS lmao. Who wouldn't want new undies?

I also like making cards on walgreens.com or finding greeting cards from Etsy .
Throwing in a picture of you two never hurt either.

Just be open-minded, positive and thoughtful in this process. I'm not saying to break the bank or go beyond your means. If your guy is worth it then show him on this day as well. If you're thinking that your man isn't worthy of getting treated well then why are you there?  

 I'm a natural giver and have been way too nice to unappreciative people.I'm not saying to be a fool like I was and to just give to people you think take you for granted. I smartened up in that way but I definitely don't let past idiots deter me from being who I am; genuine, loving or even hopeful lmfao. 

I'm saying to just be caring and giving in the same ways you would want someone to be caring /giving to you.

I just want us to do better. One post at a time.

If you have any suggestions leave them in the comments :) Thanks for reading.

I thought these cards were cute...

I have asthma so this one has me DEAD lmaoo

#DoBetter2018

A very talented light worker named @sirm00re on Ig wrote this well written letter to the "bros , & sistas if it applies" about what they should as well as shouldn't be doing in this new year , 2018. It's worth more than just a summary so it's posted below of course. Before you get to it though,a few things he mentioned are taking care of ALL your kids , hygeine (no one wants a dirtbag) ,taking care of mental health , dating tips etc . I REALLY appreciate post like this because it is literally putting the phrase "each one , teach one" to work . It's speaking up for what is right , knowing better to do/teach better, and holding people accountable for things we sometimes struggle with or just plain & simple don't want to face. 

Furthermore, it inspired me to write something to the ladies.

Wanna hear it ? Here it go.