I'm Thankful..

So today is Thanksgiving and of course the , "what are you thankful for?" question is in full effect. 

Mental Health is a joke..

It seems to me that mental health is currently on trend . Being who I am , and knowing how much I talk about that topic you would think I would be happy about this . I'm not . Here's why ....

Everywhere I turn around mental health seems to finally be the focus of things . I honestly hoped that this would happen some day, and part of me is still relieved that some sort of awareness is here . I just really can't fully be excited for it because people made it into a joke. Some people have chosen to use a very serious thing and turn it into just a phrase that will only benefit them when they choose to be vile , despicable , and just overall crummy . 

There are other people who have really fought long and hard to keep their mental diseases under control only for it to be diminished by people placing "mental health" on their b.s. I don't understand.

Having something wrong with you and just straight being a bad person or doing dumb things is on YOU . Also , if everyone wants to say that things are because of their mental health , why is NO ONE GETTING THE HELP THEY NEED TO DO BETTER? 

The world enjoys being "crazy" . There are some WHITE people out here blatantly being terrorist , rapist, and a whole slew of other negative things , yet the news would rather say that something was wrong with them when it's all said and done. Look, of course something is wrong with them .... YOU (meaning society). Society from the beginning of time have allowed WHITE people to do whatever it is that they wanted , no matter how reckless or cruel and still decided to do nothing except place blame on something else. Because there is nothing else left to blame white people's actions on, the thing to say now is mental health . Society has not held white people accountable for their stupid shit all these years so until that happens MORE STUPIDITY WILL HAPPEN , DUH.  (I singled out some white people because if someone of color did the things that these idiotic white people have done it damn sure wouldn't be a mental health thing AT ALL.

I can take this trend further...Some women love saying things that clearly express unhappiness, danger to themselves or others, being hot and cold (bi-polar), being extremely needy , etc. Instead of wanting to do better ,they somehow find manipulative ways to have people believe that all of these things are "just who they are" thus accepting their foolishness. Here's the thing about the people they're fooling . If YOU know that someone has things going on and you just chalk up their issues to being "who they are" , YOU ARE A PART OF THE PROBLEM. If you care about someone you can't just accept their crazy , bitterness , neediness , unhappiness , etc. You have to speak up and HELP THEM . 

PSA: Ladies , it is not okay to be a bitch . It is not okay to walk around mad as hell at the world with "resting bitch face" . Your face isn't resting anymore , YOU ARE THE BITCH at this point. I'm not even saying that you should only do better if you appear upset all the time. Even people with smiles can be condescending even if the surface seems okay. The moral of the story is if something is always wrong , find a way to get better.

[[Btw , sometimes helping those people means to do what you can and then care about them from a distance. You can not help someone who does not want to be helped. You also can not lose yourself on other people. Humans have a way of draining you to make themselves feel better. That's not how things should work but that's a topic for another blog.]]

I can't leave the guys out :) sooo yea , some guys blame their lack of communication as well as their disconnect from feelings on just "being a man." If that's what your image of being a man is then clearly you haven't been around a real man and certainly had no real MAN examples in your life. That's fine . I haven't had great examples for some things in life either. The difference is the work being done to change it .Once you see/feel the issue within , and stop lying to yourself enough to know that you're full of shit but still choose to use excuses , it's YOU. It's not okay to continue madness. SEEK HELP. 

I know there are more examples. I'd be here for another lifetime typing them out so that's a no.

When people CLEARLY can describe what's going on with them and still choose to be the same shitty person , at that point although there definitely is a mental health issue ,but you are definitely full of shit as well.

I won't rant much longer but I really am annoyed at how ridiculous things are when it comes to this . I actually suffered from Major Depression Disorder , and I actually put in the work that it took to fight that . Did research , went to therapy , found some sort of outlet , etc. Of course it wasn't easy but because for me it was a REAL issue , instead of just saying welp I'm fucked up because of my mental health I did/do whatever it took to get me better . I guess part of me is just offended that people just like to have some sort of crutch ; ALL THE TIME. 

People love to just be horrible people ,as well as complainers and have zero intention on working on themselves. Why? Again , if we see the people we claim to care about be a certain way ALL THE TIME, We have yo